Lover At the level of being, you are one.

LOVERS ARE POLAR OPPOSITES....LOVE OH LOVE -------It is one of the great miseries that every lover has to face: there is no way for lovers to drop their strangeness, unfamiliarity, separation. In fact, the whole functioning of love is that lovers should be polar opposites. The farther away they are, the more attractive. Their separation is their attraction. They come close, they come very close, but they never become one.
They come so close that it almost feels like just one step more and they will become one. But that step has never been taken, cannot be taken out of sheer necessity, out of a natural law.
On the contrary, when they are very close, immediately they start becoming separate again, going farther away. Because when they are very close, their attraction is lost; they start fighting, nagging, and being bitchy. These are ways to create the distance again. And as the distance is there, immediately they start feeling attracted. So this goes on like a rhythm: coming closer, going away; coming closer, going away.
There is a longing to be one - but on the level of biology, on the level of the body, becoming one is not possible. Even while making love you are not one; the separation on the physical level is inevitable.
You are saying “Lately, I have begun to realize how even my lover is a stranger to me.” This is good. This is part of a growing understanding. Only childish people think that they know each other. You don’t know even yourself, how can you conceive that you know your lover?
Neither the lover knows himself nor you know yourself. Two unknown beings, two strangers who don’t know anything about themselves are trying to know each other - it is an exercise in futility. It is bound to be a frustration, a failure. And that’s why all lovers are angry at each other. They think perhaps the other is not allowing an entry into his private world: “He is keeping me separate, he is keeping me a little far away.” And both go on thinking in the same way. But it is not true, all complaints are false. It is simply that they don’t understand the law of nature.
On the level of body, you can come close but you cannot become one. Only on the level of the heart, can you become one - but only momentarily, not permanently.
At the level of being, you are one. There is no need to become one; it has only to be discovered.
OSHO--Your Longing is the Seed The Hidden Splendor