Interviewer: Why is it we all so desperately want to be loved?
KRISHNAMURTI: Because we are so desperately empty, lonely.
Interviewer: But you say that loving is more important than being loved.
KRISHNAMURTI: Yes, of course—which means one must understand this emptiness, this loneliness in oneself. A mind that is self-concerned with its own ambitions, greeds, fears, guilt, suffering has no capacity to love. Love can only come into being when there is a total self-abandonment. And total abandonment can only happen with the understanding of oneself. Self-knowledge is the beginning of wisdom and therefore wisdom and love go together. This means there is love only when I have really understood myself and therefore know in myself there is no fragmentation at all—no sense of anger, ambition, greed or separative activity.
