"As long as you mistakenly look to the mind for truth, it will continue to haunt you to no end. The best course of action is to look and see for yourself that nothing in the mind is ultimately true, real or existing."
~ Adyashanti
My Secret Is Silence
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HOW TO FIND YOUR PERFECT PARTNER
A step-by-step guide!
There is an unconscious seeking dynamic that lives at the root of all drama, conflict and therefore loneliness in even our most intimate relationships...
We habitually look to 'someone else' for the kind of love and support that they cannot or will not actually provide right now. And we are left feeling disappointed, abandoned, unsafe, unloved and unloveable. And then we blame this 'other' for these seemingly unbearable feelings within us, instead of standing tall in our own experience.
If you're honest with yourself, you'll see that in your suffering you are actually leaving behind a precious part of yourself which is just asking for love. A pain, a fear, a doubt, an anger, has emerged in you not to be 'fixed' or 'healed' or 'taken away' by the other, but loved, embraced, included, sanctified... by you! You are the chosen one!
In other words, you are mistakenly looking to another person to make yourself whole again. Or perhaps you find yourself trying to change or fix them, focussing on their shortcomings, their faults and imperfections, waiting for them to transform, so that THEN they will love you. (Good luck!)
Either way, you have made your happiness dependent upon someone else's happiness and the pace of their evolution. A very disempowering place to be. We call it 'love' but really it is pure addiction. Dependency.
Friend, what you are actually seeking cannot come from without. It lives within. It is there in your very own presence. In your willingness to totally experience what you experience. To hold yourself the way you long to be held. To infuse your pain with empathic attention. To drench your body with kindness. To be the love you know you deserve.
When you break the addiction to 'others' and self-care in this way, you never need to blame anyone for not giving you love again. The sting is removed. The search is undone. There may still be uncomfortable feelings to feel, yes, but there is no violence, for violence only happens when we neglect ourselves and try to manipulate others in our pursuit of peace, love, joy and bliss. We go to war for happiness. We kill for love.
So we can forgive each other now for not being the perfect ones we dreamed of. We can thank our friends and lovers for not saving us, for leaving us unhealed and unfinished. We can bow to each other as we are, honouring our imperfect attempts to love, finding divine unconditional love for our very conditional, perfectly human love.
And each of us can find the perfect partner within. The unconditional Presence that cannot abandon us. Even when we feel abandoned.
How?
Step One: Take no more steps away from yourself.
- Jeff Foster
Body-Mind as Hardware-Software
#SwamiTejomayananda
(Part 2)
We contact and acquire objects, through the senses, in order to gain happiness. What happens when we enjoy objects? When a certain desire is fulfilled, the mind temporarily becomes calm which results in manifestation of happiness within. Being unaware of the fact that the joy experienced was from within, we superimpose our feeling of delight on the object. We are convinced it was the object that made us happy and, therefore, become attached to it.
Some people get attached to gross objects like food; others pursue subtler joys of literature, music, art and so on. Yet others enjoy subtler pursuits like meditation – all under the false notion that they are joy-giving. The more the joy superimposed, the greater the attachment. This causes dependence, possessiveness, jealousy, and fear - leading to sorrow, tension and agitation.
Dependence is sorrow. We feel we cannot live without the objects. Having imagined happiness in them, we remain bound by the rope of attachment like an animal leashed to a post. It is only when this false notion is destroyed that the mind becomes detached and free.
Never think of yourself as sick.
It’s the wrong diagnosis.
Body may be sick,
mind can be sick,
but You, the Self, can never be sick.
You can never be harmed or injured.
And here in Satsang,
I am directly showing you this
so that you will come to know it, not just believe it.
And body can be healed;
mind can come back to its natural state.
But You can never be sick.
You are the formless and ever-perfect Self.
~ Mooji
The sage is mysterious.
For such a one, identification has ended.
He has found everything
Where there is nothing.
He sees the essential fullness
Without using his eyes and
Distinguishes between Being and beings
While realizing that there is no need to
Deny the many in order to affirm the One.
His is an unbroken awareness of ‘I’.
He lives in a paradoxical locale,
In the absence of anything present and
In the absence of anything absent.
Beyond yet infinitely near,
Where each is both,
Wholly in the one and wholly in the other,
At the same time;
Where there is no other to each other,
Where the center is everywhere,
Where one plus one equals one
Where emptiness and fullness have no difference and
Where inside and outside,
Where immanence and transcendence are reconciled.
He declares:
I am phenomenal absence,
But the phenomenal manifestation appears as my Self and
I experience the world through Me.
It is only for those
Who don’t understand his singular word that
Wu Hsin has written large volumes.
THE WORLD OF GOD
The notion that the world of Siva exists far, far away arises on account of the illusion of the ego, the ‘I am the body’ idea.
Be firmly convinced that the immaculate world of Siva, which one should reach, does not exist anywhere else except in one’s own Heart.
- Guru Vachaka Kovai v. 194
A sage, experiencing his own Self shining out through every name and form, expressing Its own dynamism through every circumstance, happy or sorrowful, is eternally in unison with harmony and rhythm amidst the discordant noise of life. The greatest potencies, the greatest joys, and the amplest successes in life are his. The heaviest sorrow cannot shake him even a wee-bit.
A sage does not belong to any particular culture, race, religion, or community. He belongs to all. For, all belong to him!
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